Be warned – nagging comes at a price. Yesterday’s headlines carried the story of a man in the UK who offered his nagging wife, who he married only last year, for sale. Apparently he claims that he did it as a joke. But the sad and scary thing is he actually had a number of people ringing up about his ad.
What does this say about our society and views about marriage about people? Are we going back to the days when women were considered a commodity to be bought and sold at will like a piece of household furniture? And what does it say about this marriage? After such a short time she is already driving him to distraction with her nagging so that he would contemplate this action, even if it was a joke. He says she’s laughing now but wasn’t initially. I have to say I wouldn’t be seeing the funny side of it at all.
What is says to me is that any marriage where the wife is persistently nagging after such a short time is headed for trouble. If they’re at this stage now what will it be like a few years down the track? That’s assuming they even make it that far.
The other thing that occurred to me was that people actually rang inquiring about buying this nagging wife. Does this mean some guys like to be nagged and take it as normal? Surely not!
In my experience nagging achieves nothing. It’s easier to achieve what you want done by sweet words, encouragement and loving attitude rather than nagging. So next time you’re tempted to nag, try thinking about other ways of dealing with the situation and praising and encouraging your spouse instead.
The man in this story described his wife as ‘high maintenance.’ Before we turn our spotlight on our spouse to decide if they are high maintenance, maybe each of us needs to look at ourselves. Are you high maintenance? Would your spouse describe you as high maintenance? Maybe we each need to rethink our attitudes and how we act in our marriage.
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