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The Rule of Three: Tips to Enhance the Positive in your Relationship

When it comes to marriage, there is often a period of indifference that occurs because you have been together for years and the honeymoon, as they say, is over. Indifference is not as bad as a troubled relationship, however – indifference can lead to a trouble relationship as the two of you seek out other sources of emotional comfort and friendship and turn away from rather than towards each other.

If you suspect something like this is happening or if you are just interested in preventing this from happening in your relationship – the following three tips are methods that can help the two of you reconnect by enhancing the positive. Truth be told, these are great ideas for even the best relationships. Mechanics will tell you that maintenance is something you do while the engine is working in order to keep it at peak efficiency and that maintenance is better than repairing – either way, I hope you find these tips helpful.

  • Take a Stroll Down Memory Lane – Remember all the things you did when you were first dating and how you felt about each other. Remember the things you used to do to impress and care for your spouse and try to incorporate that behavior into your current lifestyle. While you may not need to primp or go out of your way for your spouse – they will enjoy the experience and so will you
  • Take an active interest in your spouse, their choices and their interests. Even couples who do not share the same interests can be interested in what appeals to the other – discussing and sharing their feelings, thoughts and dreams – this is how we stay plugged into each other and connected in more than just name
  • Talk regularly. While taking an active interest may seem to indicate talking, it’s important that you emphasize the need to talk to each other. Ask leading questions that generate discussion. Instead of just asking how their day went, ask more specific questions: how did the meeting go with your boss? What did the teacher want to talk to you about? Did you enjoy lunch with your friend? Etc

These are all simple methods to improve your relationship with each other as well as to enhance the connections and positive emotions you both have for each other. What other tips can you offer to help connect with your spouse?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.