Does your man feel like a superhero? Like he can do anything in your eyes? If you think about it, men like to believe they are conquerors. They like to be viewed as someone who can go above and beyond your expectations. They want to be seen as strong, the one who comes to the rescue.
My husband does this in a number of ways. He can open any jar, fix just about anything in our house and can find solutions to virtually any problem. If he could don a cape, I think he might.
While most men like to feel they are superheroes, many women like to feel as if they are the damsel in distress. I realize this will not sit well with many women who read this.
We have certainly come a long way in our rights. But I’m not really talking about that. I’m talking about that inner need for someone to be there for us, who will come to our rescue and defend us no matter what.
I think some women are afraid to admit that deep down inside they want this. They want a man to pursue them and really, it doesn’t stop after you are married. There is still that desire to be wanted by a man (which should be your husband).
Unfortunately what can happen in a marriage is that with time, we stop viewing our husbands as superheroes and they stop viewing us as damsels.
For instance, early in your marriage the first time your husband makes a repair around the house, you squeal in delight. What a man! Several years later all you can see are the unfinished projects he hasn’t completed. What a jerk!
Or early in your marriage your husband tenderly holds you when you cry. She needs me! A few years later, “What are you crying about now?” What a whiner!
It is amazing how differently we treat each other as time goes on. Now of course there is some level of maturity and growth in our marriages that does require change. But there are some things we need to keep alive.
We need to make our husbands feel good about their abilities and how they take care of the family. They need to feel that we will turn to them for help because he is strong and able to handle anything.
And as wives, we need to feel that we are wanted and loved. Perhaps you don’t feel that way right now. Share this blog with your husband, to give him an understanding of what you need as a woman…or a damsel, should you choose to go that route.
Commit to keep him as your superhero and to be the damsel that needs him.
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