The “Teacher / Educating” Personality Type, or the ENFJ personality type, describes a person who is an Extrovert (E), who perceives the world through their Intuition (N), who relies on their Feelings (F) about the people and circumstances involved in a given situation as a basis for decision making, and who views the world from the vantage point of Judgement (J).
If you are an extrovert, you enjoy interacting with the outside world around you, as well as the people in it. You thrive from this interaction, and very much prefer it to being alone with your own thoughts. You like to use your intuition to give you information that goes beyond the facts of a given situation. You like to use your feelings about the people and circumstances involved in a situation as a guide for your decision making process. You view the outside world from the vantage point of your own structure of personal beliefs, ideals, and values.
The parenting style of a person with an ENFJ personality is one that emphasizes nurturing and encouragement. You are a parent who is very comfortable expressing your feelings. This means that you provide your child with a lot of hugs, but also that you have long, meaningful, talks with your child about the emotions that each of you is feeling. These “heart – to – heart” talks cause you and your child to develop a very close bond with each other. The talks are also a great way to give your child some direction about what to do to solve a problem that he is having. You are there to praise your child when he is successful, and also to encourage him through the times when he is struggling. You are the parent that manages your family. This means that you are the one to plan ahead for meals, parties, events, and all the day to day needs. This is your way of providing your child, and your family, with structure. You get pleasure from your connections with other family members, as well as from the people in your community, and you keep you child connected to both worlds through your actions.
A child who grows up with an ENFJ parent grows to be comfortable with the expression of his emotions, and with other people expressing their emotions as well. This child knows that he is loved, because his ENFJ parent has provided countless examples that emphasize it though hugs and words of affection. He learns that deep, meaningful, conversations are valuable. He learns to enjoy the connections with his family, as well as with the other people he becomes friendly with, and will learn how to make and keep those kinds of connections. He feels that he grew up in a very good home, and was well taken care of.
A child who has an ENFJ personality will become an adult who wants to serve other people. He will prefer an employment situation that is unlikely to be fraught with conflicts and heated disagreements. As an adult, he will seek out a career that allows him to work with other people, and will avoid jobs that require him to work by himself, with very limited social interaction. He may choose a career as a Minister, Pastor, Priest, or other Religious Leader. Or, he might select the career of Teacher. Other great choices include a Psychologist, an Entertainer, an Artist, or an Occupational Therapist.