There is something beautiful about the old style rituals and formalities of paying court and delving into the love and romance of other times. For example, during the Victorian years, a primary requirement for marriage was romantic love and because this was so important – the act of courtship developed into an art form and it was very important for every part of the rituals to be observed.
For example, if a man wished the company of a lady, he would present her with his card. As the evening progressed, she would study the cards of the men who presented them and would favor him with her own card if he was her chosen escort to return her home. The courtship would then continue through conversations, afternoon teas and more – all done under the watchful eye of her family. The sign of a couple that was truly becoming successful was when they stepped out to sit together and converse on the front porch.
Other Tokens of Love
In the Norse countries a father would give his daughter an empty sheath when he wanted it known that she was of marriageable age. When a suitor was ready to make his offer and become betrothed to the girl, he would place his knife in the sheath.
Bundling was a custom in Europe and the United States in the 16th and 17th centuries. The prospective couple was bundled into a bed fully clothes, with a board between them and a cover tied over the girl’s legs. The idea was that they could spend the night together or several nights together – talking quietly and privately. This allowed them to get to know each other better before electing to get married.
In some parts of England, a gentleman who wanted to make a bid for his lady’s affections would send a pair of gloves to her. If she wore the gloves to Church, then he would know that his bid for affection is welcomed and he may continue his pursuit. If she didn’t wear the gloves, he would accept her refusal without putting either on the spot or under pressure.
These are some beautiful traditions and in some ways, it’s a pity that they have passed to a bygone age. What customs do you remember fondly?
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