The other day we looked at the importance of complimenting your spouse. Why compliment your spouse? It lets them know they are valued and their opinions are valued.
Yesterday Mick and I were talking about the greenhouse he plans to build. I asked where he was planning to build it. I knew he had his doubts about the proposed site and so I suggested two other places. The more we talked the more it became obvious to me there was was a better spot.
‘That was a really good idea of yours,’ Mick said.
How did it make me feel? Good that I was able to contribute and that he valued my input. It was so different to the day before when someone wouldn’t even listen to my suggestions because they had their mind already made up and didn’t want to hear another opinion. That’s okay; I’m not married to them so it doesn’t matter.
So complimenting your spouse can make them feel valued and appreciated. What things can you compliment your spouse about?
For gifts or talents they have. Mick has a talent for card making. I know I could never in a million years have the patience, enthusiasm, and gift for making card Mick does. Everybody I know loves getting one of his special cards.
Left to me the garden would always be a mess. But Mick looks after it and makes it neat and grows useful things like vegetables and pretty flowers I enjoy. He deserves to be thanked and complimented for his hard work.
‘That was tasty,’ Mick often says after I have cooked a meal or ‘I really enjoyed that. Thanks.’ It makes me feel the time and effort cooking and preparing meals is worthwhile.
Whenever I need garlic he always peels and crushes it for me as garlic plays up with my sensitive skin. It’s only a little job but I appreciate that he does it to help me out and I let him know I appreciate it. That’s the thing, compliments don’t have to be for world shaking events or talents or gifts. They might be just for the little everyday things that make up everyday life.
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