It’s Father’s Day in Australia tomorrow. Someone asked me what I’d bought for Mick for Father’s Day.
‘Nothing,’ I replied. ‘He’s not my father.’
If my father was still alive I would certainly buy him a gift and our son and daughter buy a gift for Mick, but we have never held to the view that the husband buys presents for their wife on Mother’s Day or the wife buys presents for the husband on Father’s Day. After all it’s not husband’s or wive’s day. In fact I think the whole thing is quite absurd and a ploy by companies to get people to spend money.
When the children were very little I used to take them shopping for something for their Dad for Fathers Day. As they grew older they’d go off to school with money to buy Dad a gift from the Fathers Day stall that often cropped up at school or we’d shop together. But it would be something small that they could afford to buy themselves from their pocket money. And often they would make a card. But I’ve never bought Mick a gift a given him a card for Father’s Day.
It’s not because I don’t love him or appreciate him. It’s not becaue I don’t like buying gifts for people. I love buying gifts for those I love whether for birthday, Christmas, anniversary or for no special reason. I love seeing the look on people’s face when they open a gift they know I have spent time and care choosing just for them.
Yes, I’m glad Mick is the father of our children. He sets a great positive example for them in marriage and in life. He doesn’t need me to buy him a Father’s day gift to know that I appreciate him. Of course come wedding anniversary time, that’s a whole other story. That’s our special day and I’m happy to spoil him. That’s the day for buying my husband a gift or maybe just sometimes because I see something I think he’d like. I don’t need the excuse of Father’s Day.
Talking to other people,it seems we are rather the odd ones out when it come s to our attitude to Father’s Day and Mothers Day. That’s okay. We’re often the odd ones out when it comes to the way we approach our marriage and our relationship too.
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