Usually when we here someone mention “those three little words” we think of the words “I love you.” It is of course a beautiful sentiment that most people like to hear it often. However, it’s a different set of three little words that might just wreak havoc on your marriage. Those words are, “do it yourself.”
Now, do it yourself doesn’t necessarily mean your marriage is over. If your hubby suddenly turns into DIY guy or your wife is seen walking through the garage with power tools and a pink tool belt, do not despair. You may still be able to salvage your relationship.
Don’t panic. First, find out whether he or she is any good at the do it yourself stuff. If so, that’s a bonus. It means you get to save a lot of money. If not, things could get a little scary. I would not be surprised to find that unfinished or bungled home improvement projects have been added to the definition of “irreconcilable differences” in divorce proceedings.
Joking aside, do it yourself projects can become a touchy subject in a marriage. Whether the handy person is seen as not doing enough around the house, or the not so handy person is seen as doing too much (WAY too much), it can be a source of tension.
If your spouse has the DIY bug, the two of you might need to set some ground rules. For example, promise not to freak out every time she picks up a drill if she promises to ask for help when she’s in over her head. On the other hand, wives might agree not to run into the street screaming when the guys get near a hammer, if the men agree to read instructions, ask questions, or even consider taking a quick course related to the project (frequently offered at home improvement centers on many topics, free of charge).
Don’t let those three little words come between you and the man or woman you love. Just learn how to do DIY projects right and start with something simple, or just slowly back away from the toolbox.