Are you a shy guy? Maybe you’re a bashful lady. Perhaps you just don’t have a lot of experience with flirting. Don’t worry. It’s not as hard as you might think. Just forget all those preconceived notions, all the bad advice, and definitely forget about tacky pick up lines.
There are better ways to get someone to notice you. This tip will also help you avoid to embarrassing rejection if the other person doesn’t feel the same way. It can be written off as nothing, where actually coming on to someone cannot.
When I was young… or younger… I had a terrible crush on a boy. I could not get him to see that I liked him as more than a friend, and I didn’t want to be too forward. I confided in a close friend’s mom, and she said, “There is really only one main thing you need to learn if you want to flirt well, and that’s how to use eye contact.”
I tried it later at a party and it really worked. It was intriguing. The clueless boy finally got a clue and he asked me out.
Making Eye Contact
Okay, this is not where you sneak a peek at the hottie across the way and then demurely look down when he or she catches you looking. Nope. Making strong eye contact means you continue looking even after the other person notices. Just keep gazing, and the other person will likely look away. If the person looks your way again, and you make eye contact, he or she will notice. After a while, if the other person is interested, he or she will likely approach you. Just remember, a soft consistent gaze is flirtatious, not a hard stare. Also, try to keep it casual. Don’t maneuver until you’re always in that person’s line of sight. Be subtle.
It’s much easier to communicate without speaking, than it is to try to come up with the perfect thing to say. It also avoids putting the other person –and you- on the spot. If the other person is not interested, he or she will likely try to avoid making further eye contact. Then, you can simply go about your business, without either one of you feeling too awkward.