So my husband’s family has decided to cut us out of their Christmas celebrations and I am madder than mad. I am not mad for me but I am for my husband and my kids. My father in law is sick with cancer and now my husband and kids are not being allowed to spend time with him.
I am so angry with it is not funny. We had our daughter’s birthday party this past weekend and told his brother and sister that they are not invited to the party. I do not think they should be allowed to pick and choose what part of the kids’ lives they want to be in. When my mother and father in law find out that we did not want my hubby’s brother and sister to come to the birthday party they said they were not going to come either. They have also decided to not celebrate Christmas with us. Christmas time is most magical for kids so in order to punish us for wanting a separate Christmas gift exchange with just the grandparents they are punishing our kids.
In my mind what they are doing is equal to emotional abuse or neglect and I am not going to allow that to happen anymore. We had a family meeting last night asking the kids how they felt about what is going on and the extended family. Their reply was not shocking to me but how they were so honest and straight forward it was great.
When we asked the kids if they loved them their answer was yes, when we asked them if they love them because they are family and were supposed to or if they loved them because they loved them. They all said because they felt like they had to love them because they were family.
We asked the kids if they felt like they are loved and that they are important to them and they all said no and that hurt me and my husband. Our kids are awesome and they so deserve so much more.