Trash talk is the topic of today’s article. I’m looking at it in two different ways.
One thing that was re-enforced to me with Mick sick all this week is that I don’t like putting the trash out. I don’t mind the paper and recycling bin so much, but dealing with all the other garbage and accompanying smells nearly makes me feel ill. It just makes me so grateful that he is the one who usually does this job.
Early in a marriage it’s good to decide who does what jobs. Mick doesn’t worry about putting the trash out but he’s not a big fan of having to cook, which works well as I am happy enough to do that. He’s happy to wash up. I’m happier to wipe.
It all works well until someone is sick or absent, then the other person has to step up and take over those jobs. So we need to be adaptable, because sometimes what happens in marriage is we have to do some jobs we don’t like doing. For plenty of reasons, I admit I will be thankful and relieved when Mick is well again. I hate him being sick.
The other thing is trash talk. How often have you heard a husband or wife talking badly about their spouse? It’s something that shouldn’t happen to my mind. If something is a problem then talk to your spouse rather than rubbishing them and running them down and talking to everyone else about it. That’s not fair on your spouse to tell negative tales about them.
How much better instead of trash talk to talk about the things they do right and how great they are? While you’re about it, don’t just tell others, tell them as well and let them know how much you appreciate them and the things they do.
It might only be things like taking the trash out but it’s something you then don’t have to do. So let them know that you appreciate them and their input.
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