This article may well be as much for me as it is for readers. We all have accidents and make mistakes, but sometimes the worst part of a problem can be telling your spouse about it. If I wreck the car, I’m not too worried about that. Some spouses might freak out, but I know my husband would be more concerned with whether or not I’m okay, than he would be with the car.
How do I know? Been there, done that. I didn’t exactly wreck the car, but I did drive off into a ditch once when a bee flew through the window and directly into my face. I managed to go off into the ditch and come right back out, when there was still some damage. Thankfully, my husband was able to make the repairs. His first question as I sobbed, “I put the car in a ditch,” was, “Are you okay?”
Unfortunately, today’s situation seems a little trickier. I certainly don’t have any fear of my husband, but I still hate telling him things that I know he’s not going to be happy about. Do you go through that too? It seems to be pretty common for women and men alike. I guess we just don’t want our spouses to be disappointed in us.
So, guess what happened today? I did not lose my wedding ring… not exactly… I lost the diamond. Yeah, I know, how the heck did that happen? I was brushing my daughter’s hair and my ring got snagged in her ponytail holder. The next thing I knew, I was looking down at empty prongs on my ring.
I have crawled all over the bathroom floor, looked in the sink and the drain, rubbed my hand along the entire surface of the bathroom counter, and I have no idea where it might have gone. We ran out the door to catch the bus, and I came home to search some more.
I can’t find it! I’m afraid it might have fallen into my daughter’s hair or her ponytail holder, and now I’m trying to reach her teacher.
My husband should be calling anytime. I really don’t want to tell him, at least not until after I find it. Well, maybe after I drop it off for repair. Well, maybe after I pick it up from being repaired. Nevermind, I’ll just fess up when he calls so I can get it over with and stop dreading it.
I guess I better go call the teacher again. I’ll let you know how it turns out!
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