No, unfortunately, I didn’t find the stone for my engagement ring. It’s not looking good. I did find that the dread was much worse than the actual event of informing my husband about the situation.
When he called, I tried to tell him what happened. Well, I tried to ease into by bringing up the fact that he had previously talked about trading my ring in on a new one. I’m sure he was curious as to why I was bringing that up, but his cell phone dropped the signal in the middle of the call. When he called back, he began talking about something else, and well, I didn’t bring it up again.
I felt bad for not having told him yet, so when I picked him up from work, I decided to just come out with it. I was near tears, and I blurted it out. He just looked at me. After a moment, he asked, “What happened?” I explained it and he put his hand on my knee but didn’t say anything. The silence was deafening!
Then, he said he’d help me look for it and if we couldn’t find it, he’d review the paperwork to see if there was some action we could take due to the warranty on the setting. I couldn’t believe he was taking it so well! Actually, I should know better by now, and I should have given him more credit. I was so upset that I just couldn’t see how he wouldn’t be as well.
While I’m still not happy about the situation, I’m feeling a lot more relieved now that he knows. I’m also glad that he was so sympathetic, which helped me to be a little more at ease over the whole thing. I don’t know why I didn’t tell him sooner. I’m going to remember this situation the next time he needs to get something off his chest.
Openness really is the best policy. Even though sometimes telling our spouses about bad situations can fill us with dread, doing so usually not nearly as bad as we imagine it will be.
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