I went through the day and what it would consist of for my son and I. I told you all about how I make it his day and about him. What should you do now that your children are in bed? Now that you’ve spent the day with the one(s) you love, it’s time to spend it with the one you didn’t. Yourself. There are so many people I could quote about loving yourself, but I won’t, because I’m sure you’ve heard them all. That doesn’t mean, however, that it isn’t true. You need to love yourself. You need to make yourself feel good. So tonight is the night that you will celebrate your love for yourself, maybe even start a nightly, or at the very least weekly ritual for yourself.
“How am I supposed to do that?” I can hear the question now. Well, that really depends on you personally. Again, I will go through what my night will be like and what I will do. Maybe this will give you some ideas on how you can celebrate your love for yourself, and make you happy. Remember, “If mamma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”
After reading to my son and tucking him in, I will spend a little extra time cuddling with him tonight than normal. Then I’ll go to my room, and get out my favorite soft, warm, comfy pajamas (it is very cold here after all, last night it was -35 without wind chill). Then, I’ll go downstairs, and call my friend Lameka. She has been my friend for 15 years, and can always give me a good laugh. After I hang up with Lameka, I will throw a cup of water in the microwave for some Chai tea. While that’s heating, I’ll grab whatever treats I bought for me when I grabbed the treats for my son at the store. I’ll also grab some nice smelling candles that I have tucked away, and one of my favorite books, quite honestly right now it’ll probably be one of the Harry Potter books, as I am rereading them at this point in time. Then, I will fill the tub with nice hot water with some sweet smelling bubble bath, set everything up next to the tub within reach and take a nice long bubble bath. After I am done in the bath, I will pop in some relaxing music, and I will give myself a mini pedicure and/or a mini manicure. When my nails are done, drying and all, I will pop some pop corn, grab the rest of my snacks that I didn’t finish in the bathroom, a diet soda, and the quilt that my sister made me for Christmas last year. I will cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie. It will probably be a horror movie, sad but true. I don’t get to watch horror movies much anymore since I had my son, so on nights that are for me, that’s usually what I watch. After I watch a movie I will probably head upstairs, kiss my sleeping son, cuddle up in bed with my dolphin lights on and write until I get tired.
That will be my night in a nutshell. Some other things you could include would be a personal massage, with a hand massager, or a foot massage with one of those massaging pillows. You might want to do a hair treatment from V05, or some deep conditioning with leave in conditioner. You could even grab some hair dye or hair tint and give a new color a try. Maybe you would like to get some really nice lotion and spend some time taking care of your skin, or get what you need for a facial and give it a try. Just think of some things that you think you might enjoy, and give one or two a try.