The writers here at Families.com are wonderful at covering all of the different aspects of marriage. In those discusses, we have picked apart the topic of affairs on several occasions. We have discussed the affects of affairs, staying together after an affair, emotional affairs, mental affairs, and physical affairs. However I think that there may be one affair type that has been left out.
Is there such a thing as a verbal affair? Can two people create too close of a bond with another through verbal means. I think that the answer is “yes”.
Perhaps this type of affair is not as directly detrimental to a marriage as a physical one but it could definitely lead to some marriage issues.
A verbal affair takes place when a married partner begins intense and emotional conversations with a person of the opposite sex. This typically begins as casual conversation between two friends and then turns to more in depth and intimate talk that should only take place between two partners.
In some cases, the talk may involve talk of intimacy and sexual relations. However, it does not have to include discussions of this type to lead to something more.
People who begin discussions about their personal feelings, goals, and personal thoughts often become emotionally bonded with one another. These emotional bonds can eventually convert over into physical actions.
While at times it is necessary to have personal conversations with someone other than your mate, it is best to keep these conversations between your friends of the same sex. They can better relate to your feelings and you do not risk the chance of creating too close of a bond with another of the opposite sex.
When you do find yourself in these types of talks with another, it is best to end them as quickly as possible. Also be careful about putting your mate down or discussing your unhappiness with your marriage. These can lead to the wrong assumptions.
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