The divorce rates in the United States continue to climb. In fact, I just read a survey that claimed that fifty-one percent of women are single. Now, that statistic did not account for details such as were they previously married and divorced, or widowed or if they had just never been married before but the number was a surprise to me.
Divorce is serious and even more serious when there are children involved. Today we live in a world where instant gratification is an expectation. Let’s face it, if we want something bad enough we can find a way to get it. If it is a tangible item and we can’t afford it after searching through manufacturer’s and store web sites on the computer, all we have to do is find it on E Bay! Technology is fast and so are the lives we lead today.
Marriage, however, is not as fast and the decision to leave your marriage should not be an impulsive one. If you feel unhappy in your marriage the solution is not to file divorce papers the day after you realize you are feeling this way. First, give your thoughts a long hard look. Why are you unhappy? Specifically what is making you unhappy? Is this something that can be treated or worked on? Are you willing to work on fixing the marriage? What role do you play in this problem area? Talk with your spouse. Find a good Therapist. If after all options are exhausted and you still feel miserable then yes, it may be time to think about divorce but not before. Of course if there is physical abuse or mental abuse or even a substance abuse issue you will need to get help as soon as possible and find safety for you and your children.
Finding someone to love and who loves you back is a beautiful marriage. Life throws us curve balls constantly and we can either dodge them or let them smack us in the face. Entering in to marriage with the assumption that you will work to make the partnership mutually respectful and satisfying is a commitment that needs to be renewed everyday. The enormity of the commitment should never be entered in to or taken lightly.
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