Well I do not need to wait to tell you how our holidays are going to be with my in laws. This has been a horrible in law week.
My kids have asked that for the gift exchange with Grandma and Grandpa on my husband’s side to be done without their Aunts, Uncle or cousin. They all have asked that the only people there are them and our family. We wanted to do a separate get together with the Aunt, Uncle and cousin. You may be asking why they wanted to do that and I will be more than happy to explain.
See our kids see that when they are together with their cousin and Grandparents they do not get attention from them. The other grandchild is the “chosen one”, when you go into their house there are so many pictures of the other grandchild and very few of our kids. When you go into the room that they are supposed to have for all the grandchildren there is only one name on the wall, only one of their pictures on the walls of the play room.
When we asked for separate holidays we thought it would be ok but we got a call from my brother in law last week who said that he and his sister “have decided to cut us out of their holidays”. When I asked him to clarify he said that the two of them decided not to celebrate the Christmas holiday with anyone in our family because I am asking this to cause problems which is not the case. The kids asked for this not us. When he said that I told him that they cannot pick and choose what part of our lives they want to be in it is an all or nothing. So unfortunately they chose nothing. They are choosing not to see their brother their niece or their nephews for Christmas.
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