A while has gone by now, we have been a family for years and I was trying to put myself in the position of their birth mother and tried to track her down again. So far no luck at all she seems to have fallen off the face of the earth.
We did have some information about one of children’s biological father. He had willingly relinquished his parental rights because he felt he could not give Steve a good home and family. We had heard from CPS that the Steve’s biological dad had written a multi-page letter explaining why he made the choice he had, he also included information about his life, family and even pictures for Steve to have when he got older. Unfortunately for Steve CPS has lost the letter and the pictures. My husband and I felt that it was time to contact the biological dad and let him know how Steve was and to see if he had any questions about Steve and how is growing. We had made the decision not to tell Steve we were making the calls because he is still young and we did not want to confuse him.
As I have mentioned before all three kids know that they are adopted, we have never hidden this from them. We made the choice to contact Steve’s biological dad strictly because of the fact that he did what was in the best interest of Steve and we could not even imagine how hard that was for him to do.
We had enough information and were able to find the biological father rather easily. When I made the first call I was rather nervous to how he would react to the call. We were pleasantly surprised as to how well the conversation went. He had many questions about Steve and how his life was going. We did ask if he ever had contact with Steve’s biological mother and he said that he had not heard from her in years. We asked that she be not told anything about our conversations because we were not ready for that. We told him we would call again in a few months to give him updates if he would like that. Of course he said yes.