My husband was heading down to the store, and I handed him a list of the things I needed. He pocketed it and drove off, and came back later with a sack full of stuff. In addition to the things I asked for, he had purchased something I needed that wasn’t on the list. Bless his heart – he noticed we were nearly out and picked some up.
It’s things like this that make me fall in love with my husband all over again. Sure, a romantic vacation to some remote island would be nice, but on a day-to-day basis, I need his thoughtfulness and his compassion more. I need him to be thinking about me. When he remembers something we’re running out of, and he picks it up, it shows me that he’s been listening to my needs, paying attention to our home, and wants to please me by making sure I have what I want.
Sometimes husbands put really high expectations on themselves and then get frustrated when they can’t live up to those expectations. They hear their wives complain that they don’t get the attention they want, and they feel they have to bend over backwards and become some kind of male model/personal masseur/Mr. Moneybags in order to meet their wives’ needs. But if you were to ask a roomful of women what really means the most to them in a husband, they will tell you a whole string of stories like the one I just related. Women want to be heard. In a nutshell, that’s all we really want. And when you show us that you heard us, we will be all over you like jam on toast.
So let me make a suggestion: the next time you’re having a conversation with your wife, really pay attention. Home in on something she says, and the next time you’re out and about, bring her something that ties back to that conversation. If she says that she remembers a time when her daddy took her out for bubblegum ice cream and they had so much fun together, grab her a pint of bubblegum ice cream. When you hand it to her, just watch her face. You’ll be well rewarded for that extra little bit of effort by the expression you’ll see there.
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