“Tolerance” has become a buzz word in recent years in regards to children and diversity. But, as parents, there are every day things we can do to help our children learn to be more tolerant people and incorporate tolerance into their very characters. Learning to tolerate and appreciate people who are different than us is important and necessary in this modern, global world.
There are natural, developmental stages that children go through where they are just not inclined to appreciate anything or anyone that seems different. The mid-elementary-school years, and again during the middle-school years are prime times when differences (or perceived differences) are not tolerated. This doesn’t mean that parents should just give in and give up, however, these are perfect times to step up the efforts to encourage and stress tolerance.
As parents, it can be tough to have a leg to stand on if we don’t model tolerance and seek out those who are different from us in our own lives. By openly exposing ourselves and our children to individuals who come from different backgrounds—and NOT being judgmental or critical (this is key), we can set the stage for tolerance as a family value and expectation.
You can also help keep your child from getting stuck in a rut by promoting activities and interests that will expose him or her to other kids outside of the typical realm. When problems, curiosities, or criticisms arise, you can then help your child work through these to develop an expanded sense of tolerance. Summer is a perfect time to find camps, activities, sports, etc. that take place OUTSIDE of your normal neighborhood. There are often city-wide or specific summer activities available that invite participation from various neighborhoods and demographics and give children a chance to get to know other kids outside their own little worlds.
Making sure that you have a variety of books, movies, and music from all sorts of cultures and with various messages about lifestyle, family, economic backgrounds, etc. can also reinforce an expectation of tolerance. These can be especially good for younger children—but don’t ignore variety and diversity when kids get to be a little older either.
It may seem that children naturally gravitate towards those who seem the most like them, but parents can play a very important role in promoting and encouraging more tolerance.
See Also: Seeking Out Diversity
Perks of Public Education–D=Diversity