Every marriage has a bad day. Days when you just don’t seem to click, when stress and irritation leave you both feeling as prickly as porcupines. Those are the days that it’s really hard to remember why you love your husband or your wife. Those are the days when you think it might have been a whole lot simpler if you’d never met or never married or just never something’d.
These are the days that you have to practice the What Do They Mean To Me? exercise. What is this exercise? It’s a mental and physical one you do with some pen and paper if you have it handy. If not a computer will do or you can just make a mental list – it’s better to write it down, but sometimes you just have to work with what you got.
Here are a few tips on how to do this exercise:
- Write down his or her name
- Write down a list of positive aspects using the letters from his or her name
- Write a short paragraph about how you met
- Write a description of the first time you knew you loved them
- Write about the first date you shared
- Write about a funny memory you shared
- Write down a thought you want to share with your husband or wife
When you have written all this down, share it with your spouse. This exercise helps you to remember your positive feelings and thoughts with regard to the person you married. It reminds you of what they mean to you. When you share it with your spouse, you are telling them what they mean to you. It’s a revealing and precious exercise and hopefully it will bring you both closer together.
So, what do they mean to you?