Do you imagine a perfectly romantic scenario when you think about Valentine’s Day? Does your spouse have any idea what your thoughts are about this special date? For many people it is a time to reflect on love and enjoy romance, but for others it can end in disappointment. The number one reason for the latter is not letting the other person know how you would like to celebrate.
In a perfect world, every spouse would automatically know the desires of a mate’s heart, and sweep us off our feet with innumerable romantic details. It would be nice, but it’s not likely to just happen. In new relationships, people do tend to try a little harder, but that doesn’t always work out oh-so-perfectly either, since people have very different ideas of what romance means.
It may also require a bit of compromise. If you are a hopeless romantic and your spouse doesn’t feel the same way, you can combine things both of you enjoy to create a mutually pleasurable celebration. Give and take is the key here as it nearly always is in close relationships.
If there is something very special that you want to do or see or experience, it’s a good idea to begin discussing it advance. If your spouse realizes how important it is to you, he or she will likely be accommodating. However, springing the idea on your mate at the last minute and then being upset when he or she has other ideas, will only lead to both of you enjoying the evening less.
We tend to plan and shop based on our own thoughts and desires, but it helps to ask our spouses what they think and let them know what we think. Surprises can be nice too, but there is also something to be said for planning a fantastic celebration of your love by working together. Doing so will also spark anticipation; giving both of you something to look forward to until Valentine’s Day arrives.
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