Yesterday I looked at what I believe it doesn’t mean to be head of the household and some of what it does. Here are further ideas on the subject.
Beliefs, values, priorities, family ideas and spending in a marriage ought to be along similar lines, not just what one person decides. The person commenting on the original blog suggested that the husband was in charge of finances and the wife needed to justify all expenses to her husband. What about working out together what is needed and how finances are spent?
As for the husband being free to spend as he sits fit while the wife has to justify her expenses. Come off it! This isn’t a marriage. It certainly isn’t a partnership built on love and respect. It is a selfish attitude that sees one considering themselves and his opinions, time, rights as more important and valuable than that of their spouse.
That’s not the way it works in a body. The head may make a decision but it works in conjunction with the other arts of the body. It can’t act on its own. The head might convey the idea to a foot or hand to move but it requires both for the action to take place. The foot or hand doesn’t move independently without the prompt from the brain or head and the head can have the idea but it needs the foot or hand to cooperate. So it’s working together.
Mick mostly takes care of the home finances these days. In the past there have been times when it was my job as I had more available time to run around and pay bills and he had far less when he was working. He figured too I knew exactly how much we needed for groceries and essentials and he trusted me to use money wisely without having to give an account of every dollar spent though I could have easily and he could have looked at it any time and knew that too.
At no point in our marriage have major decisions been made by either of us without discussion and talking them through and most of the minor ones are even made that way too. I can’t imagine him making a decision that did not take into account my feelings and wishes any more than I would make one that does not consider his.
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