New moms are always asking me for advice because I am the mother of four children. There is nothing I love more than reminiscing about the baby days. I also understand the overwhelming feelings of being a mom for the first time. It is hard to know what to do and if you are doing it right. I know the fear of thinking of the grave ramifications of feeding sweet potatoes before green beans. I understand the worry your child will spit raspberries at the table until she is 18.
So what would I tell a new mom?
You cannot spoil baby by holding her. Hold your baby. She needs to feel the security your arms provide.
As every phase passes a new one begins. Yet, be rest assured, it will pass.
Do not let someone make you feel like a bad mom for the choices you make. Make your choices based on your family’s needs.
It is okay to not want everyone to hold your baby. You are not being rude by not passing your baby around like a hot potato at family functions.
Your mom means well. Listen to her advice and respect her for the woman who raised you. She may offer advice too often or even criticize at times. She is a woman who knew the fleeting joy of having a precious baby and longs to have it back. Give her a break.
You do not have to explain why you co-sleep, don’t co-sleep, breastfeed or bottle feed to your in-laws.
Save your baby’s first gown, first Christmas dress, first lovey and anything else sentimental. Put it all in a big box and treasure it.
Take plenty of pictures. However, I doubt I have to tell a new mom that. But it is a good reminder for a second time or third time mom.
Enjoy your baby’s laugh. If you can record it!