Now, I realize we are all exemplary parents here on this site–and outstanding individuals who are emotionally deep and highly evolved–but, sometimes, life throws us challenging curve balls and one of those can be when no matter how hard we try, we just don’t like one of child’s friends!
You may recall that on that fifties classic, “Leave it to Beaver”–the Cleaver parents were not exactly thrilled with Wally’s choice for best friend–Eddie Haskell (note how Haskell rhymes with rascal!). I seem to remember an episode or two where they considered banning ‘ole Eddie from the Cleaver residence because of his naughty behavior choices (that’s how we say it today.) But, overall, they continued to be polite and patient with Wally’s friend.
That may just be about the only tip I’ve taken from the Cleavers for my modern, 21st century parenting. Politeness and manners with my kids’ friends no matter what. I’ve given myself little pep-talks when there were friends I didn’t particularly care for: “She’s just a child, she just reminds you of so-and-so who wouldn’t let you play in the dress-up clothes in kindergarten, etc.” Not easy, mind you, but it helped me to remember that I was the grown-up and therefore an example of how grown-ups should behave. And, grown-ups are polite and respectful–even if they don’t want to be!
Chances are, your child will bring home friends you absolutely can’t stand (sometimes, I think they do that on purpose–especially in the teenage years)–unless safety (drugs, alcohol, etc. and even then it’s still a slippery situation between your child and you) is an issue, it’s probably best just to be polite and ride it out. My mantra with most things having to do with parenting–and life for that matter–is “Everything is temporary.”
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