We determine how important things and people are in our life by the amount of time and effort we devote to them. Take time to list now those things/ relationships important to you as they come to mind. Maybe even the order in which they come to mind might tell you something.
When you have your list, prioritize them from one to however many according to what is most important.
Next put down next to each one the amount of time you devote each day/ week to each of the things on your list.
Sure, we all have to work but is work taking up every available minute so you do not have time to be with your spouse or family? Yes, it’s good to further education and there may be times we feel we need to do that to improve job prospects but again, are you having to take time away from your spouse to be able to do so? Is it is short term thing where it has an end in sight? Or is it ongoing?
What about outsides interests like a sport or hobby? Do they take up so much of your time that your spouse is left on their own or trying to keep the family occupied while you do what you want?
Sadly, it happens too often, People are so self-absorbed and focused on what they want from life, that the spouse is almost of minor importance in their lives. That is shown the lack of time they devote to their spouse and to maintaining their marriage
I see lots of incidences in the forums and other places, where it appears people seem more concerned with too many other things rather than maintaining their marriage relationships. If it is not deemed as important to you, then it’s hardly surprising when it doesn’t work out.
We can’t claim something is important to us if it’s relegated to an hour or two a week. Again, it all comes back to the attitude we take into our marriages.
To me, my list of priorities would be as follows:
My relationship with God,
My relationship with my husband,
My family and friends,
My writing.
So the things that are most important are going to be the things that I will pay most attention to and put most time into.
How does your list look? Do you need to make any changes to it?
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