One of the things that usually happens on weekend mornings is that one of us, either my husband or myself, will ask the other, “What’s on the agenda today?” This is a way of us checking with each other on what we would like to have accomplished over the weekend, when we are both home and usually not working. Since we have three kids, the agenda includes them, although right now because of their ages, they aren’t included in the actual decisions.
Things on the agenda might be something simple such as buying apples, or fixing a leaky pipe, or watching a movie together or just having time to catch up on job-related work that has gotten behind. Sometimes it could be a way of asking for assistance or support or making a need known in a round about way that doesn’t imply any criticism, such as “I think we should get your license renewed,” or “How about it if we go to the emergency clinic?” Yes, this last one is true to life.
By asking each other what’s on the agenda, we acknowledge a couple of things. One is that we work as a team, and the other is that each individual’s priorities are important. It also gives us a chance to see what is really wanted or needed by the other person while helping to keep u on the same page as far as what is going on with everyday life.
I got to thinking about this, and there are probably several areas where we should be checking in with each other on the agenda for future priorities as well. For example, what are our goals for our family and our life together? Is it a priority to save for retirement or for college funds or both? Do we want to remain in the same house, the same town the same jobs in the future? Should we socialize more, less, separately, together? All of these things may be forgotten to be discussed in the hectic pace of daily living.
So, go ahead and ask your spouse, “What’s on the agenda for today?”
Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here.
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