Fighting is something that every couple does. Some couples fight more than others. However, every couple has a disagreement every now and then. Believe it or not there is etiquette to fighting with your mate. There is a time and place to have an argument. Couples should always tactfully follow the when and where to argue.
First, never fight around your parents. While it may seem comfortable for you to argue in front of your own parents, fighting in front of in laws can cause trouble with the entire family. If you continuously argue in front of your in laws, they will begin to form a negative opinion about your marriage. This you do not need.
Second, keep the fighting to a minimum when around friends, especially on a double date. It can be a real drag to be around a couple who cannot get along. If your mate says or does something that you do not approve of, wait until you get home to discuss it. Fighting can put a damper on everyone’s night.
Most of all never fight in front of the children. Children pick up on negative vibes and high raised voices. They can feel the tension when parents are arguing. Even small children understand more than you think when it comes to their mommies and daddies. Many times children who hear their parents arguing feel to blame for the unhappiness. Always wait until the children are out of the room to make negative comments toward one another.
Public places are also no place to begin yelling or fussing with one another. I have heard couples arguing in parking lots and restaurants. This is very uncomfortable and inappropriate for everyone around. It can also be upsetting for persons nearby that have children with them, especially if foul language is used.
The best place to argue is in the privacy of your home when you two are the only ones involved. After all, the argument is between the two of you and not your children, the rest of your family, your friends, or the world.
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