Today I have been discussing one extreme measure that a woman can take to get her husband to attend marriage therapy with her. This method is described by Dr. Patricia Allen in one of her books.
The first step of the method is to write a five paragraph letter to your husband. The second step is to leave and give him two times that you will call.
I left off with the first call. During this call you can expect that he will likely either be angry or sad. However no matter how badly that you want to or no matter how much he begs, do not go home on Saturday. You are away until Sunday evening.
When you return on Sunday, you can get your husband’s true feelings on divorce. If he is still very angry and has rage toward you and refuses to see a therapist, then you probably should seek a divorce. However if he is willing to talk and discusses the possibility of a therapist then you should give it a chance.
Leaving without warning as described in this process can give your husband a shock and an insight into separation and life without you. It can give him a taste of what divorce might would be like. If it does not make him want to work things out with you then perhaps things should not be worked out.
However before carrying out the process, make sure that you are ready to go through with your written intentions and file for divorce if he still does not want to seek help. It is important that you carry out what you state. If you do not, then he will never take you serious again when you discuss your intentions for the marriage.
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