Over the past two days we’ve looked at young marriages and getting married later and seen each have advantages and disadvantages. So, is there a right time to get married?
Some churches who believe in abstinence before marriage say it is better for a couple to get married young rather than later so they are not tempted into having sex before marriage. While I’m certainly not advocating sex before marriage, getting married for that reason alone is the worst reason I can think of. A marriage needs a lot more than sex going for it.
Some people also marry because they want to be married and not ‘left on the shelf.’ Again this is a bad reason to get married. They’re in love with the idea of being married or even in love with the idea of love rather than the person.
We can sometimes have our ideas of when we’d like to get married and etc. It’s a common game girls play from the time they are young imagining the one they will marry, what he’ll look like, how old they’ll be when it happens, how many kids they’ll have etc. Bu the reality is we can’t do a lot to influence events.
When our daughter was young, a song came to mean a lot to her, because it reminded her of things we’d talked about together. I’d always told her there was a special someone for her and she’d meet him when the time was right and she had to wait till then. The song that reflected these ideas was by the Supremes, ‘You can’t hurry love.’
This is what I told her when she bemoaned the fact that she didn’t have a certain someone in her life at the time. She’d always thought she’d like to be married at a certain age. It don’t happen then. It did happen a bit later. I believe, and so does she, that it happened in God’s time. It happened when the time was right. It is so obvious her husband is the perfect one for her.
I always thought Id marry later but then I met Mick and that as they say was that! And if we had to do it all again, we‘d make exactly the same choice, because we can’t imagine life without each other.
Really, that’s what it all about- the right time to get married is when up meet the one you know you want to spend your life with. Then it’s a matter of making sure you know them well enough to know that you will be able to live together each day because you accept them as they are just as they accept you the way you are. Whether you are old or young is immaterial.
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