Do you remember the joy and excitement when you first fell in love? Remember how you couldn’t stop thinking about the other person and wanting to talk about them to anyone who’d listen and even those that didn’t.
You just wanted an excuse to hear their name. You wanted to hear their voice on the other end of the phone, to see them and spend all your time with them. You couldn’t wait for the day you’d be married and have more time to spend together. And then you married and it’s all great for a while. Then reality and the pressures of everyday life set in.
You’re no longer thinking about the other person and what they want. You are thinking about you and what you want to do instead or what you’re missing out on doing You starting to see more of their faults and feeling less enchanted by them. Sometimes no matter how hard you try it seems that first flush of love has faded. If you’re not careful it can disappear all together.
Could this be you and your spouse? How do you determine if it is? And what can you do about it?
Lack of joy is a warning sign that all is not right and that love is fading. If you no longer feel that excitement and pleasure in their company, it’s time to be on guard. We all lead busy lives and sometimes love can so easily be pushed aside in the busyness of day to day living.
First you need to identify if you feel your love for your spouse is fading or has faded, instead of simply shrugging it off, it’s time to take some action. What can you do? How can you re-ignite the love?
It’s not enough just to say the words. You have to take action. Join me tomorrow for some practical suggestions of ways to overcome this.
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