It is really hard to let my house go. But I haven’t had much of a choice the past few days. I have been trying to work through a severe flair-up of costochondritis which requires not only anti-inflammatory medication and icing the inflamed areas but rest…lots of rest.
So I have tried to recruit my teens and husband to help out. The problem is that I don’t like the way they do it. Well, that isn’t their problem, it is actually mine.
My husband was off work one day this week and so that afforded me the opportunity to really take it easy, which made a huge difference in my condition. However the next morning when the kids were off to school and my husband was back to work, I found myself internally complaining.
The dishes weren’t put into the dishwasher the right way. The stove was never wiped down. The floor wasn’t swept. And although the laundry had been washed and dried, none of it was hung up or folded.
I felt like the help wasn’t much help at all. But then I had to check myself. They were giving their best but to me it wasn’t good enough.
I had to appreciate the fact that my family did step up. No, it wasn’t exactly in the way I would have done it but it still took a huge load off my shoulders.
Do you find yourself getting swallowed up in that mindset, that the way you keep house is the not only the right way but THE way? That can be dangerous because when you do need to rely upon help then instead of appreciating it, you do what I did…you complain.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has fallen prey to this. But I am glad that I was able to see how truly ungrateful this made me.
If you find yourself in a position where you cannot take care of the housekeeping, allow others to do it. But that means allowing them to do it their way and to appreciate their efforts.
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