Whether we think it will happen or not, children are bound to affect a marriage. So you might be wondering when is the right time to have children or even if there is a right time? Should you wait till you are financially secure before bringing children into your marriage? Will you be prepared to exist on one income after children or will you still want to keep working after the child arrives? All of these are questions that need to be answered.
In this day and age we have a lot more choice about when, or if, we will fall pregnant than did many of our ancestors. Children and family life is one aspect that needs to be talked about seriously before you are married. Your decisions about children can depend on several things including your religious beliefs and those of your partner and your attitude to contraception.
Some people may refuse to take any precautionary measures like the pill and leave it up to God while others may consider that they are making a responsible informed decision by using contraception. People are always going to have differing views on this and one person shouldn’t try and impose their views on another.
Whatever you and your partner decide, it needs to be a decision you are both comfortable with. And the truth is, it is a decision between the married couple only and God if you are believers. It doesn’t concern anyone else. Of course that doesn’t mean you won’t have plenty of people offering advice and applying pressure. Pressure from parents who want to be grandparents is often very hard for some couples to deal with.
Plans for family should be talked over before you are married. That’s not to say though that after the marriage things won’t change. Sometimes despite people’s best efforts to prevent it, the woman will fall pregnant. Obviously this calls for major adjustment in the plans to accommodate the unexpected.
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