Yes I will admit it. I am a Hannah Montana fan. It all began with watching it with my daughter. However, now it has developed into an obsession of my own. When thinking about the article that I am writing today, I remember one episode of Hannah Montana when Hannah (Miley) tried to convince Lilly that her boyfriend was no good.
When watching this episode I thought of how often this scenario really happens in life. I can think of many cases when friends have been unhappy with their friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend. It may be something personal, a gut feeling, or hard core evidence that makes you unlike or not care for your friend’s partner.
So what happens when you are not so chummy with your friend’s mate? Is it your place to say something or to try to break up the couple? If you do decide to interfere, you must be very careful. If your friend truly cares for the person you may end up hurting your friendship more than the relationship between the couple.
Below I have offered some advice on how to delicately handle it when you feel that your friend has made a bad choice when it comes to finding a mate.
Give him or her a chance.
This is your friend right? Your friend is a smart and grown adult. Wait it out and give the partner a chance. Perhaps your friend sees more into the person than you do. If you are acting on a gut feeling, do not interfere. Just because this person is not in your liking does not mean that he or she is not right for your friend. Try visiting with the couple in different settings. The friend’s partner may be more tolerable in a private double date situation than at a party.
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