One of my last articles proposed a question to my readers. It also gave a scenario. The scenario described a situation where the person that you fall in love with does not match the ideal life that you had imagined. In some cases we cannot control whom we fall in love with. We only discover the major differences after the feelings already exist.
After that the only thing left to do is to decide if the relationship is worth sacrificing your plans for the future. There are many things in life that we preplan and have preformed ideas about. Those include things such as family, living arrangements, and lifestyle.
There is no easy answer to this question. No one can tell you which things can be compromised and which things you must stand by and hold on to. You must decide for yourself.
However, if you feel passionately about an issue it should not be compromised. Even if you think that you can settle and live with the compromise you will regret it in the end. You may even end up resenting your mate for the lost of your dream or life plan.
Some things such as the type of home that you wish to have or the area in which you wish to live may not be as important to you as the love that you have found. However, issues such as family values and children may not be something that you are willing to compromise on.
While it can be very difficult to let go of the true live that you thought you had found, you must realize that the difference would likely always be a burden in the relationship. You must also keep in mind that there is someone out there with the same ideas about life as you. When you find this person, the love and bond will be stronger than you ever imagined.
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