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Where Do Kids Learn These Things

I was sitting here talking to my middle son George and just a reminder he is bi-racial son. We were talking about the friends that he has made and I asked if he had a girl that he liked. George is only 10 so he is not able to date but I was interested to see what he would say.

He mentioned that there were a few girls at his school that he liked. I asked him what they look like and the first thing out of his mouth that he would never like a white girl! Well that was a bit of a shocker because his family consists of all white people. When I asked him why he would say that the answer shocked me speechless; he said “Well white people rule over black people”. Now I was really speechless. Where would he get that crazy idea?

When I asked him he said “Well that is what my friend said”. Ok so first who is this friend because obviously that young man needs to be educated and their friendship needs to be watched. I do not want my son to have any negative opinions of white people the same as I want none of the other children to have negative opinions about any other race.

I asked George if he really believed that and he just shrugged. I went on to remind him that his tummy mommy was white and his tummy dad was black so he was a little bit of both. I also asked him if he felt that way about me, his dad or his siblings. He said he did not but I still am a little hurt and shocked because we have made a point to try to make sure that everyone is treated equally.

Again I am wondering where do kids learn these things. How do I change my son’s opinions?

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About Tammy Woolard

My name is Tammy and I am 40 year old mother of 3 wonderful children who came to us through domestic adoption. Although we did not have any fertility issues we chose adoption because there are so many kids that did not ask to be born but truly want a family to love. We did research on adoption choices and decided on domestic adoption through CPS. You would be surprised the differences between each agency. The adoption process is nothing like you see in the movies. I am also a 5 year breast cancer survivor. When I was diagnosed my kids were 3, 5 and 7 I did so much research I may have driven my Dr. a little crazy but that is ok it is my body not his.