When I got divorced less than eight months ago I watched as my entire world was turned upside down. In one night I lost my husband, my home, my source of income, and my perfect little fantasy family. All of the sudden I didn’t know who I was anymore. I had come to identify myself solely as a wife and mother and now a huge part of me was gone and I had no idea where to go from there. I had to ask myself, “Who was I before I got married and had a baby?” And I honestly couldn’t remember. So many of us become consumed with this identity of being a homemaker that we lose who we really are. Who was I now that I was no longer someone’s wife?
I had to start all over and find myself again. I had to dig down deep inside myself and find out who Sarah really was. I changed my major, I immersed myself in being a mother, I found joy in good wholesome music, and I rediscovered my love of writing. It had been so long since I had sat down and written my feelings out that I had forgotten how much I enjoyed it. I decided that my life may not be perfect, but I was going to make the best of it. I had to look at the many blessings that were surrounding me and count them one by one. Some days it was harder than others. I was still grieving my marriage, but I was able to find happiness as I was digging deep down into my heart to find the real me.
As wives and mothers we have to remember to do things for ourselves so that we don’t lose sight of who we are. We have to take the time to do the things that make us happy. You never know what life is going to throw at you. I never in a million years thought I would be divorced at 21 years old. But it took losing everything for me to realize just how lost I really was. Don’t forget that you are important too, find happiness in the little things, and remember who you are.