If the saying is true that it “takes a village” to raise a child, then the single parent might want to consider a “city” as resource. After all, we are often told that it is all about the “support system” when it comes to being a successful and happy single parent. But, in reality, when the chips are down, who can you count on? It is important to have not just a general idea of who your “support system” is but a good understanding of who those people are who you know you can really count on no matter what.
Of course, we often don’t know who those people are until crisis hits and we are in the midst of an emergency. Not to mention, we may be surprised to find out who those people actually are! You may be surprised to find that a neighbor you hardly know or an ex-in-law turns out to be an integral part of your inner-circle as a single parent household and you would have never seen that coming. Still, it is important to identify and nurture those individuals in your world who you can really, truly count on.
This can mean making sure that you are appreciative and reciprocal when you can be. Even the most loyal supporter can get burnt out if they are over-used or taken for granted. While you should not feel like you have to hesitate to ask for help, it is important to make sure that you are caring for those relationships and those people who are really closest and dearest to your family. Not to mention, that you are not abusing someone’s generosity or assistance–or pulling out the “single parent” card too often. Look for ways to re-pay and support those who support you and you will strengthen those integral relationships even further.
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