Yesterday I got a Frederick’s of Hollywood spring preview catalog in the mail. It reminded me of an article Lyn once wrote. (See: Do You Still Wear Lingerie?)
I’ve owned a few pieces of lingerie in my lifetime. Some I bought myself before we were married, some I got as wedding presents, and I even picked up a couple pieces since we’ve been married.
But I never wear them.
My trouble has always been laziness. Seems like a lot of trouble to get into some sexy getup only to, as Lyn pointed out in one of her comments on her article, not be in it very long.
And then there’s the planning of it all. Wayne and I make dates to see movies together, or go out to dinner, or maybe to see a play or concert, but we’ve never made a date to have sex. We kind of go with the spontaneous flow on that front.
Which is another reason my lingerie collection is dusty. I never know when the mood might strike us. What am I going to do? Run around in lingerie every day in case today’s the day?
A couple of times I’ve snuck off and slipped into something sexy when I’ve sensed a bedroom rendezvous was imminent. It was nice, Wayne appreciated the effort, but I wasn’t even in the darn stuff for five minutes before it was back off again.
Which is why the times I have bought lingerie I’ve made sure it was on sale.
I’m looking at the prices in the Frederick’s catalog and thinking, “Sexy as this stuff is, I’m not spending $30 to $75 for one outfit that I’ll probably only wear once –maybe twice if I’m lucky– and that I won’t even be in for a whole ten minutes.”
So maybe that’s part of my problem too. I’m cheap.
Lucky for me I have a husband who’s not a stickler for lingerie. I’m sure he’d appreciate it if I wore it more. But I also think this is one time where he also appreciates my cheap, lazy ways. It’s better for the pocketbook!
Seeking Help from Readers
I posted a thread in the Love & Intimacy section of the Marriage & Relationship forum called Clueless About Lingerie.
In addition to being cheap and lazy, I also think I’m clueless when it comes to lingerie. Maybe I’m making it harder than it needs to be. (As far as finding the right time to wear it.)
Anyone got any pointers they can share? Either leave a comment below or in the forums. Thanks!
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