In nearly all marriages there is one person who is the better communicator. Experts would suggest more often this is the woman, as on the whole women are more used to sharing their feelings and thoughts than guys are. But this is not always in the case.
In a marriage of a young couple I know, the wife admitted even though both of them communicate well, her husband is the better communicator.
Even as I write that, I can almost hear others of you out there say getting conversation or communication out of your husbands is like the proverbial getting blood out of a stone. I’ve seen marriages like that too, where the answers come in one word and think it must be very hard to deal with. Maybe the trick in a situation like that is not to ask questions that can be answered in one word specially just yes or no.
It could be too that one person in the relationship talks so much, the other person has got into a habit of not talking.
So often people are in such a hurry to say what they want, they simply cut in and talk over top of the other person even if they’re not finished. I’m thinking of a few people I know who tend to do that.
In a marriage situation, if you are in the habit of talking over top of your spouse, and yes, I’ve heard that one happen too, then your spouse might decided there’s no point. They will take the path of least resistance and soon you may find it’s an uphill battle trying to carry on a conversation at all.
Bringing up past hurts and carrying a grudge are other areas that stymie conversations. It’s hard to talk to the person who has a chip on their shoulder. That’s why it is so important to resolve issues, and to forgive and forget. Then we can each move on to enjoying and improving our relationship.
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