Who is the boss in your marriage? Ideally, you might think no-one should be the boss in a marriage and that marriage is a partnership. But sometimes no matter how much we talk things through and try and work them out, we may find we have different ideas. Then what?
When a decision needs to be made and you cannot agree, then someone has to end up making a decision. In the biblical view of marriage the husband is the head of the household and the wife is to submit to him.
This does not mean that a husband has a license to ride roughshod over his wife’s opinions, needs and feelings. Because the rest of the passage instructs husband s to love their wives as Christ loved the church- in other words to make sacrifices and give up his own rights to benefit her. It’s anything but a selfish or domineering attitude.
When making major decisions it needs to be one that will benefit both. Obviously it’s better if you can talk it through and reach an agreement, but if you can’t then I believe the husband is the one to make the decision. He is ultimately responsible for the care of his wife and family. He is the spiritual head of the household.
Sadly, some men abdicate their responsibility in this area and leave it to the woman to teach the children about God and what the bible says. This was never the way God intended it to be. I am thankful that together Mick and I taught our children about God and what the Bible said. They saw the example first hand of a husband and father who loved God and tried to put into practice the principles in the bible. I believe it has helped them immensely in choosing their own marriage partners and the way they operate in their marriages and families.
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