Sure, we want our children to behave. As a matter of fact, this time of year, we often require them to be “on their best behavior” more than usual—there are visiting relatives and holiday parties, church and school pageants, as well as other special occasions. For our kids this can mean a lot of time indoors and a lot of time wearing uncomfortable clothes! Not to mention, plenty of high expectations when it comes to their behavior. Our kids need a bit of release, though, even big kids. A little horseplay and getting out and blowing off some steam can be the key to survival…
I am of the belief that a little horseplay is almost always a good thing. Of course, I am not advocating inappropriate roughhousing in the aisles of church, but more of a balance. If a child has to sit still in a hot older relatives house for two hours—he should get to stop off at the park or go skating afterwards as a reward. There is a good reason why recess is often the favorite “subject” of many kids (even as schools seem to be taking away more and more of the recesses and play time)—kids need that movement, oxygen, and silliness. (Heck, I NEED that movement, oxygen and silliness and I’m over forty!).
So, as we put the added pressures on our children to shape up and look good during this time of year (simultaneously giving them plenty of sugar and treats and getting them all excited with lights, gifts, and activities), we need to give them plenty of extra horseplay time too. And, no, the weather is NOT too cold or wet for a little outdoor romping. Splashing in the puddles, rolling in the snow, wrestling with the dog in the backyard—whatever rowdy behaviors the season presents, I think it is in our children’s best interest to both indulge and encourage. Besides, couldn’t we all use a little horseplay ourselves right about now?
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