Yesterday I gave one reason why I am happy to submit to my husband. Today I want to look at the other reason and show how it works in practice. But first a story to illustrate.
On Wednesday my husband and I went to see ‘Indiana Jones and the Kingdom of the Crystal Skull.’ Did I really want to see it? Not particularly. But I knew he did. Yes, he could have gone on his own and he would have done so, if I’d refused to go. But I knew he’d enjoy it more if we went together and held hands throughout, as we used to when we were young and still like to do.
So I went and what happened? What often happens when I do something to please someone else – I received the blessing. I thoroughly enjoyed the movie, which is not deep and thoughtful but purely good escapist fun. Yes, he loved it.
Recently I also went and saw, ‘The Bucket List’ because he likes Jack Nicholson as an actor and anted to see it. Again I enjoyed it, as we sat and laughed through ut together, as well as me shedding some tears.
Of course the opposite has been true. He has come with me to see what many would term ‘chick flicks.’ He has, at times, been the only guy in the audience. Some of the movies we‘ve seen include: ‘Enchanted,’
‘27 Dresses,’
‘Closing the Ring’
‘The Jane Austin Book Club.’
Has he been bored? No, he freely admits he enjoyed all these movies.
Too often we close ourselves off from experiences by letting our stubborn insistence on our own rights and what we want get in the way.
Yes, in my case it is a simple thing like seeing a movie he wants to see but it makes him happy and if he’s happy, I’m happy.
So the second reason why I’m happy to submit to my husband is because it works. We’re both looking out for and thinking of what’s best for each other.
I know he looks for ways to make me happy and to please me. It might be something like putting the weather seal on the garage door, or him making me a loaf of gluten free bread, or going to a movie, play, concert or art exhibition I want to see.
Other times submitting to each other’s needs and looking out for each other could mean something life changing with far reaching consequences, as I’ll tell you about in my next blog.
Please visit these related blogs
Why I’m happy to submit to my husband – part 1
Keeping the happily ever after