Ok so my rant is not over I bet you thought it was but the drama gets better and this is much healthier for me than keeping it in.
A few months ago we met with my mother and father in law at a restaurant and we mentioned that the kids wanted to go to Sea World at Christmas and that we were planning on it. Now June may seem to early to tell family members your holiday plans but with my in laws I could tell them the day after Christmas that we are going away the following Christmas and it would not be soon enough. Just keep reading you will know what I mean.
So my mother in law is rather set in her ways when it comes to the holidays and if it is not her way then there is no time to do it any other way. Last year we started asking the beginning of November for a date that we could come and do Christmas with them because they do theirs on Christmas Eve and we do our own thing as a family on Christmas Eve. This has ALWAYS been a huge problem with the in laws. The others on that side think we should keep doing what they have always done for the last 41 years and not change it. Well when they started that 41 years ago it was when they had their first child my sister in law. When we were in the process of adoption we had to write what our holiday traditions were and submit them. I am not sure why I mean they don’t hold you to them I think it is more to see if you gave it any thought.
My husband and I had talked about it and decided that when we became a family we were going to start our own Christmas traditions. We originally going to alternate between his family and mine but we ended up changing that when we saw all the drama. His family did not like that we were not going to be at their parents’ house on Christmas Eve at 6 to have dinner and gift exchanges. First they live a little over an hour away and we really wanted to be home, do some of the things I did when I was little with my family and get the kids to bed before Santa came. If we went to dinner for 6 we would not get out there until at least 10 and it just did not work for us. That should be ok right? A family should be able to have their own traditions right?
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