It is interesting that I ran across this quote today:
A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust.
-Nanette Newman, British actress
My Husband was just talking with me last night and made the statement that I need to learn to trust him more. When I asked what he meant, he stood behind me and asked me to fall into his arms. Now, I have done this exercise many times in my therapy classes or at church camp when we are discussing trust but never with my Husband. I said, no problem, but when I fell back he moved a bit and I screamed! He of course caught me but then pointed out that had I fully trusted him I would not have been afraid and screamed when I felt him move.
I began to think about trust. What does it really mean to trust your spouse? There are varying levels of trust. For instance do you trust your spouse to be faithful? Do you trust your spouse to be there emotionally when you need them or to help provide financially for your family? Do you trust that your spouse is non-judgmental of you and will support your interests and help you achieve your goals? Do you trust that your spouse is committed to the marriage and will do what is necessary to foster and grow your relationship?
Trust means something different to us all. For me, after being a single parent and going through a divorce I find it difficult to fully trust. It feels as though it I let my guard down I may open myself up for hurt of some kind. Working on letting go of that fear that often drives my attitude and actions is rough. Communication with my Husband regarding those feelings is what helps me to be aware of them and also find ways to work on them together.
What does trust mean to you? Do you trust? Are you trusted?
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