Working women are contributing to marriage and family break-ups. A recent survey in the United Kingdom came to this conclusion. They found after a study of British childhood that ‘women’s increasing economic independence from their male partners is contributing to family break-ups which is in turn damaging children.’ At the risk of being shot down in flames, I admit I’m old fashioned enough to agree.
Yet, it really stands to reason. Depending on the type of job they have, women can be earning more than their men. Some men struggle to deal with that, as it makes them feel inferior. Of course, that all comes back to the idea of the man being the provider for the family. It hurts their pride and it’s hard for some men to move past it.
Even if the woman is working at a lesser paid job, she’s still trying to balance that, plus housework and caring for husband and family. Let’s face it; if you’ve ever tried juggling, it’s not always to keep all the balls in the air at once. So, she comes home tired, grumpy and not feeling up to caring for her spouse’s needs because she’s feeling in need of care and looking after herself.
The reality is, even though in some cases men have got better in doing their share of household chores, it is only in some cases. Many haven’t. It becomes a battle ground.They don’t see why they should have to. Their attitude is ‘if she wants to work, then she has to cope with it all.’
The other place where the effects of women working show up is in the children. These days, the number of children in childcare from a very young age is staggering.
Obviously sometimes it may be necessary for women to work outside the home,and given the economic situation it could become harder.But many times it is more about personal fulfillment rather than considering the family as a whole. I’ve heard women say that they end up paying out as much as they earn almost in child care fees. To me, this makes no sense. Then why not stay home and enjoy their children and bring them up themselves instead of leaving it to others to do and ending up with subsequent problems because of that choice?
I really liked Mia Camille’s signature proud SAHM. Yes I was one of those too and not ashamed to say so.
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