Would you let your husband win if you were playing against him in sport? Back in past times there was a theory that a girl or woman should always let her guy win. Even if she could play tennis or squash or whatever sport it was better than him, she was supposed to unobtrusively throw the game so he could feel good about himself. Apparently the idea was that the fragile male ego could not cope with being beaten by a female.
I have to say I’ve never subscribed to that idea.
Given the choice, I’d rather play with my husband but if I play against Mick on the tennis court I’m out there to win, the same as he is. Mick is comfortable enough in his manhood not to feel threatened if I beat him at tennis, just the same as it doesn’t worry me if he beats me either, so long as we have a good game.
I know other women who feel the same way and delight in getting a shot past their husbands. Even at times when a couple of the guys, being cheeky, challenge the ladies to a game we’re always determined to give them a run for their money. That’s a game and its different rules than in other situations.
When it comes to arguments, that’s a whole other thing. In an argument in marriage is there really a winner? Does it really matter who is the one to give in and say sorry. I don’t think it does. I’d rather get everything sorted out and be on good terms again rather than have it lingering on and on because of a refusal to say sorry and patch things up. When it comes to disagreements in a marriage we each believe pride or stubbornness should never stand in the way of talking things over and reconciling.
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