When you hear that you have cancer would you want someone who has been through the treatments to be honest or just hear the good things? OK it is cancer there are not any good things about it but you know what I mean.
This is the situation I am currently in, my father in law was just diagnosed with bladder cancer and I am trying to find the balance between reality and keeping everyone in their own version of reality. I understand maybe not wanting to know the survival rates and I do not even want to talk about that, but if you are facing chemotherapy wouldn’t you want to know about it? I had no one to tell me what it would feel like to have that poison pumped through your body and I would have appreciated it. Am I the odd one?
I know I am a little odd but I really do prefer to hear the truth, I like to know what is ahead of me. There is so many things that your body goes through when you are doing cancer treatments that you just don’t think about. I was surprised at so many things like how fast your hair falls out and how cold your head really gets without hair. Now if you are bald already or mostly there like he is the hair loss on his head is not going to be that big of a deal for him, but you also loose hair in other areas that you don’t think about. I never thought about losing my eyelashes, I did not even notice when they started to fall out until I went to put mascara on and noticed there was no lashes there anymore. Again, this is something that men won’t really miss but it would have been nice to have heard about it so I would not have been shocked.
I also like to know as much about the disease as I possibly can, I deciphered my pathology and found out everything that I could about my diagnosis. He would rather wait and see. Is this a generational thing?
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Your First Round of Chemo is Down