If something happened to you (God forbid), would you want your spouse to remarry? This issue has been the subject of many jokes and even some rather lengthy discussions for married couples. There are people who absolutely cannot stand the thought of their spouse being married to someone else, even after they’re gone.
I’ve heard people joke about coming back to haunt their spouse if he or she remarries, but I’ve also heard people try to make their spouses promise never to remarry. I think it’s more a matter of imagining a mate with another person now than actually not wanting him or her to find love again if death should part them.
Personally, I hope my husband will do whatever makes him happy and keeps him well. I don’t want him to suffer. I mean, I know how devastated he’ll be to lose a great wife like me (*wink*) but in all honesty, I do hope he can find someone else to love him, care for him, and be his friend and companion, if I’m not here to grow old with him.
Hundreds of years ago, there were people who took vows never to remarry or to become celibate when their spouses died. These were solemn vows, and they were held to their word. If they later decided to remarry, it was possible that it would be forbidden. In those times, a notice of marriage was usually presented to the community via the church, and if others had reason why a couple could not marry, they were supposed to make it known. If someone brought up such a vow, the church would likely decline performing the marriage and would not bless the marriage if performed elsewhere.
Certainly, a lot has changed since those times, but people still share many of the same thoughts and feelings. Would you ask your spouse to make a similar vow?
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