Ever thought about writing your own wedding vows? Sounds like a real tough prospect. Can you possibly sound as poetic as one of those television programs or even the most traditional of vows: ‘for richer or for poorer, in sickness and health?’ Of course you can.
The idea behind writing your own vows is not about sounding better than someone else, but about sounding more genuine and honest. It’s also about knowing ahead of time what to expect, because there’s nothing more unnerving than standing in front of the minister, priest or justice of the peace and having them recite vows you never selected or vows that sound completely wrong for you and your future spouse.
When it comes to choosing the words for your vows, let them come from the heart. Short or long, poetic or plain, the words you write for your vows should be exactly that, yours. Don’t just rely on famous quotes or well-known authors to pad what you don’t know how to say. Focus on the fact that the first time you write the vows, isn’t the last time.
You can write and rewrite until they say what you want them to say. The vows need be no more elaborate than “I love you and this is where I choose to be.” Focus on the positive, on what writing your own vows allows you to do and don’t worry about what you can’t say or don’t say.
Have fun with writing your own vows. Weddings don’t have to be solemn affairs with the shedding of tears. They can be festive, filled with laughter and anecdotes. Your vows can be the tale of when you knew that your future spouse was the one or the funniest dates you ever had. Your vows can be about dreams you had as a child and their fruitions as an adult. Your vows are anything you want them to be and contain any message you want to send.
Writing your own vows can be a great lot of fun and you needn’t worry about winning a Pulitzer Prize. Speak from the heart and your vows will be absolutely perfect, for you.